A lady in public, a cook in the kitchen and a ‘shhhh’

A lady in public, a cook in the kitchen and a ‘shhhh’
(and how not to get it backwards!)
You know her - she is one of THOSE girls - dresses impeccably, complete with a host of adoring men swarming over her at all times. She is married or maybe she isn't - she is the woman you hate, the woman you are jealous of, she is the woman YOU wish you were.
Please let me explain. I have watched women very closely for the last 4 years. I have conducted surveys with men, had the privilege of in-depth conversations with men - married, single, divorced, rich and poor, young and old - and they all tell me the same things.
I have learned from them what they are truly looking for in a woman.
Many women have not had the time resources or the opportunity to learn some of the fine arts of being a woman. In our society the game of making money –and more then your nieghbour- has become priority and the you miss out on the true luxury of being a fabulous woman and the ‘goodies that go with that.
To sum it up ladies, I have seen many women behaving like self- indulgent ‘princess brats’ — in a word, rude. This "Princess" " Diva" thing has simply gone too far. Please read the definition of a Diva—not nice! (Hint Webster’s Dictionary defines a ‘diva’ as a prima donna. Prima donna = "an extremely sensitive, vain or undisciplined person".) I doubt that is the label these women are coveting!. If you would rather learn how to be a modern day lady - with a flirty side - adored by your husband, lover(s), boyfriend, co-workers and family, read on!
Who am I to tell you? I am the granddaughter of an elegant Grande Dame - married and divorced by 23, excommunicated from the Catholic Church (after being raised in a convent) then a mistress for 23 years!
"Be a lady in public – a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom
and don’t get it backwards
………………….like most women do!"
(Lesson number one from my grandmother ---- who truly believes that is the mistake most women make)
Being a rebellious teenager, my mother married at 18 was divorced by 25, with two children. Mom became the muse of the Harper Valley PTA; her skirts were so short she needed matching underwear, not to mention the go-go boots. Her first ‘after children career’ was as a coat-check girl at the first strip club in town!
I was packed off to the suburbs with my father. My stepmother? School bake sales – I toted trays of perfect one-inch by one-inch little pink and white petite-fours. China dessert sets do exist and they are used at my stepmother's. She has never uttered a rude word, which I know of. She gets up first thing in the morning and does her make-up, works out daily, has an adoring younger husband (not my father, though he was younger too) and a long-term happy marriage. She is a true lady. She does not even gossip!
That is the quick story of my strange and marvelous life. The privilege of growing up with these three remarkable and utterly completely different women has given me a unique outlook on women, men, and women and men. Oy- what you can learn from them!
I will share with you what I have learned - how to flirt correctly, without looking like a tramp. Men love ladies who flirt, yet this is becoming a lost art. Simple social graces - how many women do you know have them any more? Etiquette - I know you think that is old fashioned, but you need to know it the basic rules before you can choose what to use and what to discard
We will also delve into details of fashion, flirting and please ladies clean the toilets before male guests arrive! Then we will explore some to the secrets of the secrets from famous courtesans for a touch of spice!
If you want a blog that tells you how wonderful you are, pick another one. If you want a private secret hideaway to share your hints and faux-pas sometimes frank, sometimes humorous, sometimes "salty" Mae West style. Grab a glass of champagne, (or from time to time a scotch and cigar—not really ladylike however it does add some spice to an otherwise perfect lady) or tea in a china cup. Settle down and get ready to learn how to be a ‘Lady in public, a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom’

Welcome

These blogs; ladyinpublic, cookinkitchen, and whoreinprivate, were created to share and enjoy the many interesting and diverse ‘personalities’ all of us women have within us.
They came from a saying my grandmother used to tell me “Be a lady in public, a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom. But don’t get them messed up like so many women do!”
As I have wondered through life I have seen, and made many of these mistakes, the price paid or involved may take years to be felt. I want to make every effort I can for women everywhere to enjoy the wonderful ‘roles’ we get to fulfill (along with all those terrific shoes!) and live the best life they can to achieved the greatest potential for themselves, and to truly enjoy being a ‘girl.’
We will include ‘sexy’ recipes, hair, fashion, etiquette tips, and yes indeed on the one blog share wild and wonderful ‘sexy’ ideas to get in touch with our sexy side. No matter if you are 20 or 60- or even older my wish is for all women to embrace being female and all the luxuries that go along with that.
There may also be interesting discussions on health, sex, food, décor, fashion, etiquette, manners and life in general.
One of the saddest things I have seen in my life is women not supporting each other – does it really matter if the ‘other’ women is taller, shorter, fatter, richer or poorer then you? You have the obligation to be the best you can be and to support not sabotage other women. That is what we will do here- no slander, grouchy or negativity here- there are other sites for that- here we will embrace and encourage our sisters to live to their full potential- and enjoy being a ‘woman with style, class and heart!’
Welcome

Down there hair!

Betty?
Wax, laser, or dye?

(The following is not for the faint of heart- but truly needed from what I have unfortunately already seen this last summer.)


Hmm- it is that time of the year when short shorts and bathing suits crop up all over the city. Now, what to do with the well ‘hair down there’ or newly polite termed “Betty”. Boys can have Johnsons’- polite term so now we have ‘Betty’s’.

Interesting conundrum. We have waxing where we can have a bikini wax- then a Brazilian or a full Brazilian that removes everything from front to back unlike the basic Brazilian that leaves a landing strip (in case I guess someone needs directions).

In the care and attention of our Betty’s we can wax or laser. Having once tried the wax process it is something I was not the least interested in trying again. Why? You go in have warm wax spread out on your body like a cake being iced with a spatula- muslin spread over the warm wax and the rip of a huge oversized bandage pulling the hair by the root out of your body. Ouch! I think I have a high pain threshold but to go through that again- only to have to repeat the procedure every 3 or 4 3 weeks was enough for me to head straight back to the drugstore for a good old-fashioned razor.

“It gets easier every time you go. “ one of my best girlfriends advised.

“It was not so bad,” advised one of my macho male friends- but he was speaking of his back- not the neither regions of his body. His eyes did get a funny sparkle when I told him what I was writing about and seemed to understand more then I did about the various different fashions about down-there-hair.

“So?” Nope not the deal for me for that kind of pain I wanted some assurance it was not going to turn into a lifetime obsession.

Then a few years ago another friend had to point out to me that as women age the private part hairline actually extends. “To protect the general public from older women showing too much that they should not show” was the kind explanation of this human oddity. Great, so as our behinds spread so does the hairline at the front ensuring we cover up so as not to insult the masses. Wonderful as we try to think of ways to thicken our hair and our eyebrows we get more hair there--- transplants? The gods of humanity truly do have a great sense of humour.

Interesting concept this laser, advised it takes 4 or 5 seasons to completely remove the offensive hair and anticipating never having under arm stubble again- as well as other stubble – was certainly something to draw me in. Then also told-‘Well maybe once a year you will need a touch up as the body produces new hair follicles all the time.’ Okay- but for the most part stubble free underarms and neat and tidy Betty regions are of interest to most of us women.

Apparently there is a numbing cream to apply one hour prior to your laser treatment to reduce the pain involved. That sounded a tad goopy and how would I be to judge the pain portion comparatively if I cheated on the laser section. I advise the no- goop and for me the pain was less then the one try at waxing. Also- the under arms area hurts more then the private parts for both techniques!

Just as this was all coming together for me I heard about another new invention- the dying of Betty? Yup not kidding. There is special dye for Betty- from Betty Beauty (bettybeauty.com) so you can mix and match so to speak or get funky with hot pink. What? Now how to be fashionable? Wax- so you can adjust to the newest craze or laser just a normal bikini leaving you styling options for later. Apparently, the Brazilian is now going out of style. Who knew?

So, for this season may we suggest wax for the maximum style adjustments? Nothing permanent here so you can change your mind with the ‘styles’. Laser the general area and then wax for styling purposes, laser the entire area and forget about maintenance. (not just for style but for some of us who are a tad lazy and don’t want to worry about upkeep)

Then the most versatile option. Laser the general area; go for waxes to change with the styles that are in at that moment (who ever comes up with this stuff?) and then you can dye what is left with Betty dye and change with your moods and outfit.

Shocking pink today—or for Valentines Day--then gone tomorrow!