Domination and submission versus s and m

It came to my attention recently with a male friend who is interested in masochism and submission- hint BIG DIFFERENCE

from wikopedia- I could not link- perhaps due to the content:
Dominance and submission (also known as D&s, Ds or D/s) is a set of behaviors, customs and rituals involving the giving by one individual to another individual of dominance over them in an erotic episode or as a lifestyle arrangement.
Physical contact is not a necessity, and it can even be conducted anonymously over the telephone, email or other messaging system. In other cases, it can be intensely physical, sometimes traversing into sadomasochism. In D/s, both parties take pleasure or erotic enjoyment from either dominating or being dominated. Those who take the superior position are called Dominants, Doms (male) or Dommes (female), while those who take the subordinate position are called submissives or subs (male or female). A switch is an individual who plays in either role. Two switches together may negotiate and exchange roles several times in a session. "Dominatrix" is a term usually reserved for a female professional dominant who dominates others for pay

he said when talking about a woman that had minor experience as a sub- "What she does not like being abused anymore".
Key words here- in submission and domination it is not to 'abuse' your partner--- but rather if you are in the dominate role to help your submissive seek the level of security and peace they are looking for.
If you are looking to 'abuse' your partner in anyway- this blog is wayyyy too light for your tastes.
Here we want to offer you some playful way to spice up your life- reach into the far reaches of your partners mind-- while some slight painful bits may be explored it is never in the land of trying to show you how to 'abuse' your partner.
Actually- in the realm of good "Doms'- men that are dominate and traditionally are the ones more into the physical of bondage- the good Doms are there to reach a neather region of their partners Psyche-- those that are in this to 'abuse' their partners-- RUN, run very far away-=-- and on very fast legs-------- in my opinion for this blog.