It came to my attention recently with a male friend who is interested in masochism and submission- hint BIG DIFFERENCE
from wikopedia- I could not link- perhaps due to the content:
Dominance and submission (also known as D&s, Ds or D/s) is a set of behaviors, customs and rituals involving the giving by one individual to another individual of dominance over them in an erotic episode or as a lifestyle arrangement.
Physical contact is not a necessity, and it can even be conducted anonymously over the telephone, email or other messaging system. In other cases, it can be intensely physical, sometimes traversing into sadomasochism. In D/s, both parties take pleasure or erotic enjoyment from either dominating or being dominated. Those who take the superior position are called Dominants, Doms (male) or Dommes (female), while those who take the subordinate position are called submissives or subs (male or female). A switch is an individual who plays in either role. Two switches together may negotiate and exchange roles several times in a session. "Dominatrix" is a term usually reserved for a female professional dominant who dominates others for pay
he said when talking about a woman that had minor experience as a sub- "What she does not like being abused anymore".
Key words here- in submission and domination it is not to 'abuse' your partner--- but rather if you are in the dominate role to help your submissive seek the level of security and peace they are looking for.
If you are looking to 'abuse' your partner in anyway- this blog is wayyyy too light for your tastes.
Here we want to offer you some playful way to spice up your life- reach into the far reaches of your partners mind-- while some slight painful bits may be explored it is never in the land of trying to show you how to 'abuse' your partner.
Actually- in the realm of good "Doms'- men that are dominate and traditionally are the ones more into the physical of bondage- the good Doms are there to reach a neather region of their partners Psyche-- those that are in this to 'abuse' their partners-- RUN, run very far away-=-- and on very fast legs-------- in my opinion for this blog.
Thursday, July 9, 2009
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Finally!
With much de-lite and anticipation finally I am dipping my manicured red toe into this milky way of de-Sires!
In the land of adult fantasy the fairytales are about as plenty as you will find in children's literature. Most of what people think and fantasize about they never speak about to themselves never mind a real life partner.
I think this is such a shame, what better way to play and enRich your lovely lives that play make believe and make-up! LUSH-ious high shoes, exploring pretty little drawers made of silk, satin and leather, toss in touch of feathers to tickle your ---------- fancy?
LUSHious!
Firstly, we will venture to path of fantasy I most enjoy, WOmen in charge. WOmen as dominatrix. A lady can be a DOMME in leather, silk or satin, so much fun- outfits for each and everyone of her varied personalities. Shopping, clothes, corsets, whips, bubbles and scented baths, men sitting obediently where they should- oh!
Unlike the simple and mundane game of men as "doms" ( I prefer to use the little 'd's' even when refering to males who think they are Dominate), in the rather more complex and interesting world of fantasy, there are many more archetypes of women as MASTERs. I shall hold your little hand and walk down the lovely path that is strewn with rose petals and thorns- oh lahhhhh---and introduce you to the many LUSH-ious little Dommes that live in the forest of fantasy.
You never know, you may find your twin sister here or the love of your life.
In the land of adult fantasy the fairytales are about as plenty as you will find in children's literature. Most of what people think and fantasize about they never speak about to themselves never mind a real life partner.
I think this is such a shame, what better way to play and enRich your lovely lives that play make believe and make-up! LUSH-ious high shoes, exploring pretty little drawers made of silk, satin and leather, toss in touch of feathers to tickle your ---------- fancy?
LUSHious!
Firstly, we will venture to path of fantasy I most enjoy, WOmen in charge. WOmen as dominatrix. A lady can be a DOMME in leather, silk or satin, so much fun- outfits for each and everyone of her varied personalities. Shopping, clothes, corsets, whips, bubbles and scented baths, men sitting obediently where they should- oh!
Unlike the simple and mundane game of men as "doms" ( I prefer to use the little 'd's' even when refering to males who think they are Dominate), in the rather more complex and interesting world of fantasy, there are many more archetypes of women as MASTERs. I shall hold your little hand and walk down the lovely path that is strewn with rose petals and thorns- oh lahhhhh---and introduce you to the many LUSH-ious little Dommes that live in the forest of fantasy.
You never know, you may find your twin sister here or the love of your life.
Friday, July 25, 2008
Welcome to Davina
We will have a new writer join us shortly.....
Davina- Davina is a well trained and experienced woman of mystery and intrigue.
She will help us all uncover our 'whore in private side.'
Please do not be afraid to ask her questions- join in the conversations-- or share your takes on how to be whore in private
Davina- Davina is a well trained and experienced woman of mystery and intrigue.
She will help us all uncover our 'whore in private side.'
Please do not be afraid to ask her questions- join in the conversations-- or share your takes on how to be whore in private
Sexy stone massage
How to do this at home-- teach your boy-toy and you will enjoy!!
you will need
1)smooth rocks- get him to fetch some from the river and present to you!(Basalt volcanic rocks are perfect as well- harder for him to get then common river rocks!)
2)heavy massage oil
3)thick luxurious towels
Heat them to around 250- either slowly in water or in the oven- careful he does not burn himself he will not be any good to you that way.
Have him test them to ensure they are perfect!
Lie down and have him place the warm rocks on your back at intervals- on top of the warm towels (of course he will fetch towels fresh from the dryer and warm for you)
OR
apply the warmed massage oil to your back and he can gently massage your back with the warm rocks.
you will need
1)smooth rocks- get him to fetch some from the river and present to you!(Basalt volcanic rocks are perfect as well- harder for him to get then common river rocks!)
2)heavy massage oil
3)thick luxurious towels
Heat them to around 250- either slowly in water or in the oven- careful he does not burn himself he will not be any good to you that way.
Have him test them to ensure they are perfect!
Lie down and have him place the warm rocks on your back at intervals- on top of the warm towels (of course he will fetch towels fresh from the dryer and warm for you)
OR
apply the warmed massage oil to your back and he can gently massage your back with the warm rocks.
Saturday, July 19, 2008
OKay, I have neglected this blog!
I have heard the roar- and I promise I will start posting this weekend- but tighten up your garter belts-could be a tad racy- and fun!
Tuesday, May 20, 2008
A lady in public, a cook in the kitchen and a ‘shhhh’
A lady in public, a cook in the kitchen and a ‘shhhh’
(and how not to get it backwards!)
You know her - she is one of THOSE girls - dresses impeccably, complete with a host of adoring men swarming over her at all times. She is married or maybe she isn't - she is the woman you hate, the woman you are jealous of, she is the woman YOU wish you were.
Please let me explain. I have watched women very closely for the last 4 years. I have conducted surveys with men, had the privilege of in-depth conversations with men - married, single, divorced, rich and poor, young and old - and they all tell me the same things.
I have learned from them what they are truly looking for in a woman.
Many women have not had the time resources or the opportunity to learn some of the fine arts of being a woman. In our society the game of making money –and more then your nieghbour- has become priority and the you miss out on the true luxury of being a fabulous woman and the ‘goodies that go with that.
To sum it up ladies, I have seen many women behaving like self- indulgent ‘princess brats’ — in a word, rude. This "Princess" " Diva" thing has simply gone too far. Please read the definition of a Diva—not nice! (Hint Webster’s Dictionary defines a ‘diva’ as a prima donna. Prima donna = "an extremely sensitive, vain or undisciplined person".) I doubt that is the label these women are coveting!. If you would rather learn how to be a modern day lady - with a flirty side - adored by your husband, lover(s), boyfriend, co-workers and family, read on!
Who am I to tell you? I am the granddaughter of an elegant Grande Dame - married and divorced by 23, excommunicated from the Catholic Church (after being raised in a convent) then a mistress for 23 years!
"Be a lady in public – a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom
and don’t get it backwards
………………….like most women do!"
(Lesson number one from my grandmother ---- who truly believes that is the mistake most women make)
Being a rebellious teenager, my mother married at 18 was divorced by 25, with two children. Mom became the muse of the Harper Valley PTA; her skirts were so short she needed matching underwear, not to mention the go-go boots. Her first ‘after children career’ was as a coat-check girl at the first strip club in town!
I was packed off to the suburbs with my father. My stepmother? School bake sales – I toted trays of perfect one-inch by one-inch little pink and white petite-fours. China dessert sets do exist and they are used at my stepmother's. She has never uttered a rude word, which I know of. She gets up first thing in the morning and does her make-up, works out daily, has an adoring younger husband (not my father, though he was younger too) and a long-term happy marriage. She is a true lady. She does not even gossip!
That is the quick story of my strange and marvelous life. The privilege of growing up with these three remarkable and utterly completely different women has given me a unique outlook on women, men, and women and men. Oy- what you can learn from them!
I will share with you what I have learned - how to flirt correctly, without looking like a tramp. Men love ladies who flirt, yet this is becoming a lost art. Simple social graces - how many women do you know have them any more? Etiquette - I know you think that is old fashioned, but you need to know it the basic rules before you can choose what to use and what to discard
We will also delve into details of fashion, flirting and please ladies clean the toilets before male guests arrive! Then we will explore some to the secrets of the secrets from famous courtesans for a touch of spice!
If you want a blog that tells you how wonderful you are, pick another one. If you want a private secret hideaway to share your hints and faux-pas sometimes frank, sometimes humorous, sometimes "salty" Mae West style. Grab a glass of champagne, (or from time to time a scotch and cigar—not really ladylike however it does add some spice to an otherwise perfect lady) or tea in a china cup. Settle down and get ready to learn how to be a ‘Lady in public, a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom’
(and how not to get it backwards!)
You know her - she is one of THOSE girls - dresses impeccably, complete with a host of adoring men swarming over her at all times. She is married or maybe she isn't - she is the woman you hate, the woman you are jealous of, she is the woman YOU wish you were.
Please let me explain. I have watched women very closely for the last 4 years. I have conducted surveys with men, had the privilege of in-depth conversations with men - married, single, divorced, rich and poor, young and old - and they all tell me the same things.
I have learned from them what they are truly looking for in a woman.
Many women have not had the time resources or the opportunity to learn some of the fine arts of being a woman. In our society the game of making money –and more then your nieghbour- has become priority and the you miss out on the true luxury of being a fabulous woman and the ‘goodies that go with that.
To sum it up ladies, I have seen many women behaving like self- indulgent ‘princess brats’ — in a word, rude. This "Princess" " Diva" thing has simply gone too far. Please read the definition of a Diva—not nice! (Hint Webster’s Dictionary defines a ‘diva’ as a prima donna. Prima donna = "an extremely sensitive, vain or undisciplined person".) I doubt that is the label these women are coveting!. If you would rather learn how to be a modern day lady - with a flirty side - adored by your husband, lover(s), boyfriend, co-workers and family, read on!
Who am I to tell you? I am the granddaughter of an elegant Grande Dame - married and divorced by 23, excommunicated from the Catholic Church (after being raised in a convent) then a mistress for 23 years!
"Be a lady in public – a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom
and don’t get it backwards
………………….like most women do!"
(Lesson number one from my grandmother ---- who truly believes that is the mistake most women make)
Being a rebellious teenager, my mother married at 18 was divorced by 25, with two children. Mom became the muse of the Harper Valley PTA; her skirts were so short she needed matching underwear, not to mention the go-go boots. Her first ‘after children career’ was as a coat-check girl at the first strip club in town!
I was packed off to the suburbs with my father. My stepmother? School bake sales – I toted trays of perfect one-inch by one-inch little pink and white petite-fours. China dessert sets do exist and they are used at my stepmother's. She has never uttered a rude word, which I know of. She gets up first thing in the morning and does her make-up, works out daily, has an adoring younger husband (not my father, though he was younger too) and a long-term happy marriage. She is a true lady. She does not even gossip!
That is the quick story of my strange and marvelous life. The privilege of growing up with these three remarkable and utterly completely different women has given me a unique outlook on women, men, and women and men. Oy- what you can learn from them!
I will share with you what I have learned - how to flirt correctly, without looking like a tramp. Men love ladies who flirt, yet this is becoming a lost art. Simple social graces - how many women do you know have them any more? Etiquette - I know you think that is old fashioned, but you need to know it the basic rules before you can choose what to use and what to discard
We will also delve into details of fashion, flirting and please ladies clean the toilets before male guests arrive! Then we will explore some to the secrets of the secrets from famous courtesans for a touch of spice!
If you want a blog that tells you how wonderful you are, pick another one. If you want a private secret hideaway to share your hints and faux-pas sometimes frank, sometimes humorous, sometimes "salty" Mae West style. Grab a glass of champagne, (or from time to time a scotch and cigar—not really ladylike however it does add some spice to an otherwise perfect lady) or tea in a china cup. Settle down and get ready to learn how to be a ‘Lady in public, a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom’
Thursday, May 15, 2008
Welcome
These blogs; ladyinpublic, cookinkitchen, and whoreinprivate, were created to share and enjoy the many interesting and diverse ‘personalities’ all of us women have within us.
They came from a saying my grandmother used to tell me “Be a lady in public, a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom. But don’t get them messed up like so many women do!”
As I have wondered through life I have seen, and made many of these mistakes, the price paid or involved may take years to be felt. I want to make every effort I can for women everywhere to enjoy the wonderful ‘roles’ we get to fulfill (along with all those terrific shoes!) and live the best life they can to achieved the greatest potential for themselves, and to truly enjoy being a ‘girl.’
We will include ‘sexy’ recipes, hair, fashion, etiquette tips, and yes indeed on the one blog share wild and wonderful ‘sexy’ ideas to get in touch with our sexy side. No matter if you are 20 or 60- or even older my wish is for all women to embrace being female and all the luxuries that go along with that.
There may also be interesting discussions on health, sex, food, décor, fashion, etiquette, manners and life in general.
One of the saddest things I have seen in my life is women not supporting each other – does it really matter if the ‘other’ women is taller, shorter, fatter, richer or poorer then you? You have the obligation to be the best you can be and to support not sabotage other women. That is what we will do here- no slander, grouchy or negativity here- there are other sites for that- here we will embrace and encourage our sisters to live to their full potential- and enjoy being a ‘woman with style, class and heart!’
Welcome
They came from a saying my grandmother used to tell me “Be a lady in public, a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom. But don’t get them messed up like so many women do!”
As I have wondered through life I have seen, and made many of these mistakes, the price paid or involved may take years to be felt. I want to make every effort I can for women everywhere to enjoy the wonderful ‘roles’ we get to fulfill (along with all those terrific shoes!) and live the best life they can to achieved the greatest potential for themselves, and to truly enjoy being a ‘girl.’
We will include ‘sexy’ recipes, hair, fashion, etiquette tips, and yes indeed on the one blog share wild and wonderful ‘sexy’ ideas to get in touch with our sexy side. No matter if you are 20 or 60- or even older my wish is for all women to embrace being female and all the luxuries that go along with that.
There may also be interesting discussions on health, sex, food, décor, fashion, etiquette, manners and life in general.
One of the saddest things I have seen in my life is women not supporting each other – does it really matter if the ‘other’ women is taller, shorter, fatter, richer or poorer then you? You have the obligation to be the best you can be and to support not sabotage other women. That is what we will do here- no slander, grouchy or negativity here- there are other sites for that- here we will embrace and encourage our sisters to live to their full potential- and enjoy being a ‘woman with style, class and heart!’
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